Sometimes what hurts most is not the mistake itself but the silence that follows.
Not the “I’m sorry, I hurt you. You didn’t deserve that.”
But the absence of words. The absence of acknowledgment.
Silence doesn’t close a door. It leaves it slightly open just enough for your mind to wander back, replaying scenes, rewriting conversations and questioning yourself in ways you shouldn’t have to.
Here is the truth; not everyone will give you closure. Some people will walk away without an apology, without explanation, without even recognizing the weight of their absence in your life. And if you wait for them to make it right, you may wait forever.
What do you do when closure never comes?
You build it yourself. Not all at once but in pieces.
Every time you choose peace over questions.
Every time you forgive without hearing the words you deserved.
Every time you put down the need for “why” and pick up the strength to move forward.
Self made closure is hard. It feels unfair but it is also powerful. Because it means your healing no longer depends on someone else’s words, actions or lack thereof. It means you took what was broken and rebuilt yourself around it.
So if you didn’t get the apology, the explanation, the decency you deserved it’s time to know that; closure is not something they can give you. It’s something you can give to yourself.
Not quickly. Not neatly but piece by piece.
And in that you will find something better than answers.
You will find peace.
TUHAME ❤️
